Counting days down...

starting from today (1 Mei) its gonna be exactly 1 month and 10 days before 'THE BIG DAY'. have all the preparaton been done ? to tell you the truth, i dont really know. am i nervous ? maybe a little bit coz i dont feel a thing YET !!!.

MARRIAGE... what does it mean or more like, what is it ?

'How old are you ?'
"25"
'Ooooo, isn't too young to get marriage ?'
"really ?"

so the question is now, when is the right time to get married ? a parents will say...

'after finishing your study'
'after you get a job and earning a decent and stable income'
'after you have RM30k - 40k in your bank'

i've once watch a video posted in FB by one of my cousins, the ustaz is giving its preaching regarding life ( i cant really remember the title of the video). he was saying about how a boy turning into a man, and the changes he is going thru. one day the father call for his boy and say...

'son, dont you ever think of marriage till you are working'

the son who is physically and mentally changing into a man, which will then require as what other man need a partner in life will then slowly been depress. as what the ustaz was saying...

'when the father is with his wife in the night, the eldest son who are becoming a man is sleeping alone which is good, but what if the son is out on the street banging some girl ???...'
'it is the responsability of the father to facilitate the son in the transation into a man world, not by putting some restriction but to put in effort in assisting him to face the world...'

thus that make you think again ???...

so i guess it is not a question of...

are you ready to get married ?
are you capable of feeding someone daughter ?
do you have RM30k - 40k in your bank ?
can you carry the roles and responsability of a man, husband, father and house leader ???

every parents will want the best for their children, but is it the best for them ? nowadays the cost of marriage are increasing day by day. those in the early days have to spent about RM10k but now people are spending nearly RM40k on average for matrimonial ceremony.

after all it is not about the money, its about uniting two souls who are in needs of one another. marriage are happening all around the world, among the poor, black, white, old and young. thousand of year, even before the existing of money it self. so it is clear that it is not about the money.

to me, marriage is like going to school for the first time without the age requirement. you dont prepare to go to school, you are never ready to go to school. you just go, and slowly you adapt. so what so different about marriage ?...

A giant leap...

it all have been planned...

We've been together for more than 4 years now, knowing her since her first semester in the university. we share the same interest in outdoor activities and join the same club all the way till graduation. never knew that she is the one, two years younger and the first in her family.

along our journey, i've always been attracted to her in what ever she is doing, its hard to explain even harder to put it in words. sometime she can be very difficult to understand yet sometime she can be very unpredictable. a lot of thing that i learn from her that is the main reason of who i am today making me realize that she is a part of me.

and now, both of us are working and entering the next stage of our live. on the 19th Feb 2010, we are officially engage and will be married insyallah in the month of June 2010.